I turned 26 last week.
Some people say that 26 is an important year.
But some people also say that vaccines cause autism, so I’m not sure if they’re to be believed.
What I do know is that 25 was a rocking year, of which I spent only 6 days in my home country of Canada.
I’d say if I proved anything over the course of the year, it’s that you don’t need a lot of money to lead a rich life.
What with all the traveling, language learning, website growing, relationship building, and other incredibly rewarding experiences I’ve had over the last 365 days, and most of it without the advantages of a sexy bank balance.
That life lesson is just one of the 26 I’ve compiled for you, which I’ve learned during my first 26 years of life.
As with any list, pick out the most important thing you can implement today and get to it – I’m not here just to be your intellectual entertainment. (You can consider that a bonus, 27th lesson on the house)
Let’s get to it:
1. Simplicity > Organization
The human brain was clearly designed with bureaucracy in mind. After all, over thousands of years on the savannah we had to keep track of hunting balance sheets for tax season, prioritize domestic projects, schedule tribe meetings, create to do lists, and on top of all that, keep the tent spotless. All without an iPhone. *sigh*
While organization clearly has value in a lot of areas, I think we make a big mistake when it’s our default position. Often, the energy input to create and maintain an organizational system is excessive in comparison to the value of what’s being organized.
I’ve gotten so much more accomplished since I stopped trying to be organized and focused on eliminating the unnecessary, doing 1 thing at a time, and listening to my inner priorities.
Leo Babauta of ZenHabits is my go-to guy when it comes to simplicity, and he too believes it’s the most streamlined and elegant way to get important things done.
2. The Productivity Paradox
“My boyfriend is go good in bed. He’s such a…a…an efficient lover”
-No woman, EVER
The never ending search for increased productivity is a byproduct of the industrial revolution and the technologies that allowed us to mass produce new goods. It was a relevant and logical step at the time, but today it’s become out of control and dysfunctional, taking over parts of our lives productivity shouldn’t touch.
Think about all the most important things in your life – the things that really bring you joy: conversations with friends, time with family, hobbies, recreation, relaxation, a good novel or engaging film – whatever it is that makes you tick.
The most important things in life are the sorts of things you never, ever want the idea of productivity to come within a million neurons of.
And that’s the core of the productivity paradox: by searching for productivity, we lose focus of what’s most important.
Before ever asking ourselves if we’re being productive, we have to ask ourselves “Is this worthwhile?”
3. There Are 2 Types of Selfishness
Selfishness gets a bad rap. Most of the time, it’s deserved, as mature adults wander around fulfilling their hedonistic desires without a thought for their fellow beings. But we really need to see the other side of selfishness – the side that empowers us to do good for others, and often do so more effectively than so-called “selflessness.”
For instance, if we only get 4 hours of sleep every night, don’t eat properly, and sacrifice our important reltionships because we’re out feeding the destitute, that’s incredibly noble of us, but it won’t be sustainable.
If we don’t completely burn out, we’re going to be – at a minimum – decreasing our effectiveness throughout the entire day with all our responsibilities. And quite possibly we’re reducing our lifespan in the process.
If, on the other hand, we didn’t sacrifice sleep, ate proper meals, and kept a strong support network, that might mean slightly less impact today, but we could contribute much more to the world over our entire lives. Plus those contributions will be of higher quality, since we’ve taken good care of our minds and bodies!
Of course, it’s not black and white. Punctuated periods of “excessive” or “extreme” altruistic behavior are important – think disaster relief. It’s chronic, excessive behavior we need to be careful of, because that’s what will limit our abilities to do good over the long term.
Putting yourself first so that you can contribute your biggest gifts to the world is selfish, sure – but it’s exactly the kind of selfishness we need more of.
4. Speed of Recovery > Not Failing
In life, setbacks happen pretty much constantly – especially if you’re someone who is doggedly pursuing their goals. The more we attempt to achieve, the more roadblocks we will inevitably run into.
It’s much more important to learn how to overcome these setbacks than it is to avoid them. It allows us to make progress much more quickly than trying to be perfect all the time.
Anyone can succeed when the path is straight, wide, well-paved, and free of debris. But usually, the paths to the things we want most go through haunted woods with creepy crawlies that bite, sting, and scratch. We get pulled into the swamp, our tuxedo – now muddy, gets ruffled and crumpled; Our spotless visage and perfectly coiffed hairdo get splattered in mud; And we can either run back screaming to the safety and comfort of funny cat videos on YouTube, or we can soldier on and learn to overcome these minor yet persistent inconveniences.
In life and love, the first time is usually the worst time – pick yourself up and try again.
5. Being Decisive Makes Us Ready
How often have you waited on a big dream because you felt you weren’t ready? Going for the promotion, asking the coffee-shop cutie for a date, taking that vacation you’ve been dreaming of for years, starting a business, getting back into a hobby, running a marathon, etc.
So many people would be getting better results in life if they stopped waiting for conditions to be perfect or to have more information to get their rears in gear.
It’s hard to be decisive – as most of us have been conditioned to believe that mistakes are bad, and we will be punished for screwing up.
Well I say that waiting for the world to meet our needs is even worse punishment. It erodes our self esteem and self-efficacy – the sense that we have some control over our fate.
Just within the last year, decisiveness meant I got to do a bike tour of southern France, meet one of my childhood friends on Ibiza, develop an amazing relationship in Thailand, find a dream marketing job, and create one of the fastest growing advice blogs on the internet.
Wanna know a secret? Most of the time, I have no freakin’ clue what I’m doing. But it’s not necessary. Needing certainty is just an excuse to procrastinate. Being decisive beats being certain almost every time (brain surgery and rocket launches are notable exceptions, but they are few and far between), because we get to test our ideas in the real world, get feedback, and build momentum.
6. Goal Setting Sucks
Numerous studies in the far flung fields of psychology and business have shown that people who set specific goals have more success and are happier.
Conversely, people with no goals or very general goals, such as “I want to be happier” or “I want to be rich” tend to be less fulfilled.
Then why the heck would I say goal setting sucks?
Because there’s an equally large and convincing pool of data showing that most goals fail, and that a huge number of people hate goal setting.
How to bridge the gap?
With a simple, yet key reframe. It’s not people who set specific goals that succeed and are happy, it’s people who have specific goals.
The setting part is the problem – it’s trying to externally define what’s important and interesting to us. It’s trying to take the dynamic ebb and flow of our desires into a static thing. I can “set” a goal to make a million dollars or lose 20 pounds, but that doesn’t make me want it. It doesn’t motivate, or help overcome obstacles.
Having a goal is completely different. It’s an intrinsic desire that won’t simply disappear when we run into inevitable challenges. It doesn’t require any motivational techniques to feel supercharged inspiration. That’s why some people are so successful in areas where the majority of others fail, such as weight loss.
7. Slow the F*ck Down!
When I look around – whether it’s been in North America, Asia, or Europe, I see people scrambling about frantically trying to get more done. Chasing time. Chasing productivity. As if they’re all racing to see who can reach the end of their lives first.
At such breakneck speeds, it probably won’t take long. Or at least…it won’t feel like it.
As we discussed in the productivity paradox, the most important things in life aren’t things we do “productively.”
This really goes hand in hand with simplicity. They compliment each other like cheese in a garden salad.
If we’re always searching for more speed, more productivity, more activity, then we’ve just told ourselves that we’re never going to be satisfied. We can always go a bit faster or do a bit more.
By slowing down, we’re allowing ourselves to enjoy the things around us – the things in our present – our current experience. You know, the stuff that will comprise our entire life.
Stopping to smell the roses, eat the cake, feel the spider crawling up your leg, and watch our sun’s daily lecture on nuclear fission will enrich your life. Don’t miss out.
8. Ride the Wave, Embrace cycles, Flow
Our world runs on cycles.
Menstrual cycles, lunar cycles, seasonal cycles, laundry cycles, sleep cycles, bicycles.
There is a lot to be said for routine. However, much of that is an angry rant.
Trying to create sameness day in and day out has a caustic effect on our minds. It’s little wonder so many people get themselves stuck in a rut. Our interest and energy changes from day to day, week to week, month to month, and trying to pummel the peaks and fill up the valleys so we can have a flat line doesn’t work.
It’s kid of like your pulse. Flat lines mean either you’re dead or you’re about to be without an immediate intervention.
Being in sync with the cycles in our lives, we may not be as objectively productive, but we’ll be way more fulfilled – as we’ll be doing the things we actually care about in each moment.
9. The World Isn’t Out to Get You
I just happened to publish this article exactly 1 year since leaving Canada for a lifetime of exploring planet Earth.
One strange thing I’ve noticed traveling the world is that the locals in big cities tend to claim that their city is a dangerous place to be, coupled with a smorgasbord of warnings.
I’ve heard it in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia and Saint Petersburg, Russia. New York and Paris. And while listening to locals is one of the best ways to learn about a city, things are rarely as deadly they’re made out to be – either from word of mouth or mass media.
I’ve heard that I couldn’t/shouldn’t drive a motorbike in Thailand, trek a tall hill (or was it a small mountain?) on Sicily. Hitchhiking and CouchSurfing both evoke fear from many.
I’ve met strangers from all walks of live all over the globe, and the thing I can say with certainty is that most people are friendly and helpful.
It’s normal to be afraid of things we don’t understand – and that includes other cultures and the people that comprise them. Normal – but not good or desirable.
One of the reasons I recommend travel – and not the prestigious, resort-based travel that keeps us isolated from the culture of our target country – is that it gives us the opportunity to interact with so many colorful characters, and to see that the world is an overwhelmingly friendly place to be.
10. Success Lies in the Will to do What Others Won’t
The internet is awash in advice about how to lead a successful life, most of it in list form. Like this gem called “3 Timeless Ways to be Happier” that I found on every freakin’ website ever:
Smile more. Be grateful. Hug a puppy. The End.
All true, but functionally useless.
Change, progress, results, bringing something new into our lives is rarely the result of listening to these nebulous pieces of non-wisdom.
Often, we know the thing that will truly make a difference, but it’s uncomfortable and uncertain, so we keep inducing migraines by smashing our head against a brick wall, and then consoling ourselves with these vapid platitudes. Fine. That’s a valid option.
The reason a select few people get extraordinary results isn’t because they have access to some secret knowledge or technique unavailable to the rest of us (the exception proving the rule: bankers rigging the Libor Rate), it’s because they’re willing to do what others won’t.
This is often an investment of emotion, not money – such as phoning up someone working for your prospective employer and scheduling a lunch meeting to learn about the company, calling a friend to apologize for a wrongdoing, waking up earlier to work on a hobby or important personal project, or setting aside 5% of their paycheck before expenses for a college/retirement/rainy day fund.
11. Excess in Moderation
Possibly my favorite concept, because it destroys this black and white “x is good, y is bad” dichotomy.
Human beings, like most living creatures, are well adapted to handling, short, intense periods of stress. Think “fight or flight.” Once the danger or other stressor has passed, we return to a normal, stable state fairly readily.
And this can involve positive stressors too – consider studies showing short intense workouts often have superior performance effects than long, low-intensity ones. And that’s not even including the dysfunction that can often result from repetitive motion (think shin splints from pounding the pavement too much).
This is what I call excess in moderation. We’re able to recover from an all nighter, a day of moving heavy objects, a day of not eating, a day of no human contact without much problem.
But we can’t cope when these things are chronic, low level stressors – it destroys us. Obesity, burnout, depression, loneliness – these are not acute problems. They take time to fester and erode.
So, is cake – one of the most frequent guest foods on this website, a good or bad food? It’s not either. It depends if we’re an occasional cake connoisseur or a chronic cake abuser.
12. Stop Pidgeon-Holing People – Starting With YOU.
I’ve been asked countless times on my travels whether I’m vegan. To which my only honest answer can be “only when I’m not delighting in scrumptious animal products.”
Labels are great for knowing whether there’s dolphin in our tuna, or the blood of child slaves on our diamonds (hint: there’s a reason the diamon industry eschews labelling), but they’re a bad way to think about ourselves. They’re divisive and exclusive. They create power imbalances. By responding to the vegan question, I’m immediately casting myself as either an insider or outsider.
But we like these things. In fact, we often search for one label in particular: our purpose.
I’ve given up the practice, since it’s another example of trying to make our dynamic world static, and ignores the fact that our desires change over time. (See point #8 above)
The labels we have keep us prisoner in the roles they define.
You can’t stop others from labeling you, but you can sure as heck stop perpetuating the madness by not labeling yourself and others.
13. Craziness With The Cult of Consciousness
Scientists may not have all the mysteries of consciousness worked out – yet, but there’s one thing about it that’s no mystery at all:
Consciousness loves consciousness.
In fact, it’s stemmed a whole cult of consciousness worshipers, who hail consciousness as some sort of miraculous, mystical force binding us together. Or binding the whole universe together.
These are fairly bold claims for a narcissist, because in case you haven’t noticed, consciousness is actually worshiping itself.
I think it’s rather more likely that consciousness is just the latest fancy biotechnology the process of evolution has cooked up. That doesn’t mean it’s automatically the best. Ants invented agriculture 50 million years before humans did (we’re actually the 4th species to do so), and are a far more successful species in many regards. They don’t use consciousness to make it happen.
And I think it’s highly important that we recognize this bias we have towards our own set of biological tools. Otherwise, we are – more irony – blindly putting ourselves above our fellow creatures and then making errors in judgment as a result.
We miss obvious facts like the first “dog” (wolf) wasn’t captured and forced into submission by superior humans. IT CHOSE US as the perfect species to form a symbiotic relationship.
And it was correct. From the dog’s perspective, we have been seduced into spreading their genes all across the world in numbers early dogs would have drooled at.
14. There’s no Magic Answer – We Have to Build This World Ourselves
Magic makes for romantic fairy tales and gruesome real-life ones.
Take CTHC arch-nemesis Karma. If Karma existed, then thousands of natural disaster victims every year, including babies, are being punished for…god knows what. I don’t want to live in such a cruel world – and thankfully – I don’t.
To that end, believing that the universe is looking out for us also breeds complacency in the face of suffering. I think it’s important to help eradicate poverty, war, famine, and look out for the environment because if we don’t, nothing else will!
We have to build the world we want to live in – for ourselves, for our children, and for all the people we’ll never meet but are tired to – not through karma or magic – but the fact that we have a shared history, share this planet, and will continue sharing our experience of it for as long as such things are possible.
We are the solution to the challenges we face, end of story.
There’s only 1 magic word that will solve all your problems: Change
15. Chasing Immortality
Based on what I know about human nature and everything I’ve observed over the last 26 years, it appears that we have a deep yearning for immortality.
Not necessarily living forever, though that’s part of it. But being remembered when we do. Building a legacy.
And I suspect it is this desire that causes us so much pain when we fail to make a lot of money or gain recognition and prestige for our work. It implies that we’re not important. We won’t be remembered. Wikipedia will not keep a record of our deeds for all time.
Charlemagne. Sun Tzu. Caesar. Ptolemy. Saladin. Joan of Arc. Hammurabi. You may recognize these names, but I’d wager that unless you have a particular interest in history, you can’t explain what they did or why they were important. And those are the most famous 0.01% in history.
Compared to them, what chance do we have?
But there’s a flip side to this, if we can learn to see it – and live based on it. It means that we’re free to do exactly what we desire most, specifically because (statistically speaking) we won’t be remembered either way. It’s pointless to waste our time chasing legacy – unless those are our true, deepest, most honest actions.
16. The World Is Improving All the Time
We live in an amazing time and an amazing world. While there are still problems to solve and challenges to overcome, the picture of doom and gloom painted by the 24 hour news cycle is far, far removed from the truth.
First of all, look at the ridiculous, miraculous technology that’s been integrated into your life. Appreciate that for a minute or two. Or always.
Now look at how we’re eradicating poverty, largely through empowering women:
Now look at this video of puppies cuddling with kittens.
See? the world is a wonderful place, and it keeps getting better.
17. Laughter Isn’t Only The Best Medicine…
I think that, on average, we take life far too seriously. We put so much gravity into every little decision and action that it turns life into a grueling march through the mud.
Way too much work, not enough play. Breaking news: but nothing we do today is going to have any lasting Cosmic Significance. And thanks goodness. If you’re anything like me, you don’t remember where you left your keys half the time. I know that, personally, I don’t want such a burden.
And that means we can lighten up! To me, the mark of a good day is laughter. Laughing in delight, because something is funny, because something is absurd – the reason doesn’t matter so much.
Allowing ourselves to laugh – and to laugh at ourselves – is a sign of a healthy mind. I love George Carlin and Louis CK, enjoyed Futurama when I was growing up, and am a fan of the webcomic Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal.
Taking time to amuse ourselves isn’t productive, but it’s time well spent. And while you often hear me talk ill of our society’s technology addiction, I think mirth-inducing entertainment is a wonderful way to spend 30 minutes.
18. You Don’t Need A Ton Of Money to Lead a Rich Life
As someone who first went into the Faculty of Music at my university and then chose to travel the world, I’ve heard from every sort of detractor imaginable. They often say things like:
- Do it while you’re young.
- How will you make a living doing that?
- How do you afford x?
- Enjoy it while you can.
- It won’t last.
These seem both like thinly veiled threats and cries for help. People who wish they could do the same but don’t know how – even though most of the people I’ve heard come up with these objections have way more money than I do.
It’s as if I’m the horrible truth they’ve been fearing: That their pursuit of money is not producing the results they desire, and they know no other alternative. And here I am, doing the things they only wish they could if, in their own minds “ they had the money.”
I’m sorry if that smacks of arrogance, but the truth is this: You don’t need a lot of money to have a great life. You can travel, love, learn, grow, achieve, and have more or less the same range of experience available to a “rich” person if you stop looking at prestige as a baseline for fun.
That doesn’t mean we should seek poverty or celebrate it. I think we have a duty to help eradicate poverty around the globe.
But I think it’s equally important that we develop a healthy relationship with money and learn to make it one sphere in our life, instead of the all-encompassing factor that the others depend upon.
Because it’s simply not going to be the case that most of us become insanely rich. That’s an impossible expectation and we’re setting ourselves up for disappointment if that’s the point at which we tell ourselves “okay, now I can be happy.”
19. Uninterrupted time is the last bastion of creativity
“If you’re filling your life with distractions, its probably because you’re afraid of what life would be like without constant Internet, social media, news, TV, games, snacks.”
– Leo Babauta, ZenHabits
There is no way around it – uninterrupted time is the most important single factor in personal achievement.
Creativity, skill acquisition, implementing ideas. They all require uninterrupted blocks of time, usually 1-2 hours, to be done effectively.
Every success I’ve had in life – and there have been many – can basically be attributed to this. There have been other important factors, sure, but this is the single one that is always there – no exceptions.
Modern tech, for all its convenience, is ruinous for this critical principle. We’re conditioned to self interrupt with text messages, email, social media, phone calls – in addition to mindless snacking and other avoidance behaviors.
Even though I’ve trained myself in this area and I’m well aware of the importance of this concept – it’s a constant battle! Attention suckers are all over the place. We need to train our focus and learn to keep returning to what we’re creating – like “speed of recovery” for our attention span.
20. The time value of money
The best way for the average individual to think about money is in terms of time – since most of us exchange our time for money. It’s the only conversion we can make to something concrete – something that’s the same for every human being.
This helps us answer the questions “Is that expensive?” and “Can I afford this?”
If your car payments every month cost you $243, is that a lot? Hard to say. But if it costs you 18h of work each month, now you can judge whether or not the privilege of car ownership is really “worth it” – relative to the best ways you could spend your time.
And the same can be said for any other expense.
The real key to this is that it allows us to compare apples and oranges – things we buy vs things that are free. Going to the cinema might cost 1.5h of money and 3h of time. Watching the sunset might cost a couple hours of time.
That’s not to say one is superior, only that it lets us see our choices and their consequences more clearly. And I’m all for better decision making skills.
21. You can’t do anything, but chances are you can do a lot more than you expected
Frequent CTHC correspondent Sisyphus and I agree: not all things are possible. He can’t roll his cursed boulder to the top of his hill in Hades. Likewise, the list of thigs each of us can’t do is miles long – even if we use a small font size.
This is my biggest beef with many advice websites. They persist in blowing this smoke where the sun don’t shine. But hot air does not make for an effective enema.
This idea continues to persist, so I’ll have to swiftly and decisively disqualify it yet again: Not everyone can marry Angelina Jolie. Not everyone can be the first person on Mars. Or the highest paid actor. Or the most famous singer. If you’re 4ft10, you cannot make the NBA.
But guess what.
Because we don’t need to be able to do everything. We just need 1 or 2 really good options.
More good news: We can also do a ton more than we think. I traveled our beautiful blue-green orb for a year – and counting. I built a blog that thousands of people read. I ran a marathon. You might not be able to do the same – but you can do an incredible number of things that will be meaningful and fulfilling to you.
The majesty of life is such that you get to figure out what’s best for you
22. The World Owes Us Nothing
“I waited over 60 years for the manual of life. When it finally arrived on my doorstep…well, turns out they print these things in Japanese.”
One of my good friends is one of the hardest working people I know. We rarely see each other anymore, because I’m no longer in Canada.
Aside from that minor detail, when I had been there this individual was so busy that it was hard to find time to hang out. Even now, with all this business, they’re not meeting their career and financial goals – which saddens me.
But it’s also an important lesson. The world doesn’t owe us anything. Working hard is no guarantee of any particular result. In fact, physicists would say that if no change has occurred, no work has been done. Even if you put in a lot of effort and energy!
So we need a better strategy than hoping our efforts will pay off. Ironically, though we may be putting in a ton of effort, this is a lazy way of doing things. It’s counting on the external world to recognize and reward us, when we need to find a way to reward ourselves, regardless of what the world thinks or does.
Saint Petersburg, Russia, has an efficient and extensive metro system. I, for one, would use it even if I had the option of driving. Trains on the main lines come every 2-3 minutes (occasionally even faster), and even at the far-flung stations I’ve never waited more than 5.
However, there’s a huge bottleneck sapping the system’s efficiency: The escalators. Just recently, I missed 1 train as I entered the station and caught the next a mere 60 seconds later.
When I got off at the other end, I had to wait longer than to get on the escalator.
This isn’t a life changing problem by any means, but it is a funny example of how simple, non-obvious processes can degrade an otherwise wonderfully designed and streamlined process.
Another example is sports stadiums and other large venues, where there always seems to be a lack of women’s bathrooms. Every time you’re at such an event, notice how the line to the ladies room is always much longer than for the mens. Designers design with equal space in mind for each, but don’t account for need. It’s a bottleneck.
This, to me, is further proof that a small number of factors – often ones we don’t even realize exist, play an larger role in our experience than they probably deserve, as exemplified by the 80/20 rule.
In the case of bottlenecks, these aren’t the things that are producing a surprisingly large result, but the unexpected things that are delaying or minimizing what we get done.
24. Most of the Time – Nobody Really Knows What They’re Doing
Unless you’ve completely given up on life and have become one with the depths of your lazy boy, there is no way to predict your life 5, 10, or 20 years down the road.
We like to pretend we know what were doing and where we’re going. We’re told to get started on career planning early – get into the right schools, get a good degree, then a high paying job, then promotions and up, up, up!
We pretend like we have it all under control – but who hasn’t changed jobs, careers, families, partners, or favorite ice cream flavors at some point?
And we come up with an elaborate story to explain all the behaviors and beliefs that we have out of habit, to give ourselves the illusion of control.
But we don’t need this. It’s baggage. It holds us back. Most of the time, we really have no clue and we run on autopilot – and unlike what the “consciousness” fanatics (see #13 above) would have us believe, that’s actually okay.
When people ask me how I ended up traveling the world, choosing to go to Malaysia, or Russia, getting into marketing, building this blog – I could give some bullshit rationalization. But the truth is – I had no idea. I just followed my instinct and acted on the opportunities as they presented themselves. Many times things didn’t work out. Many more times they did. Like that no-training marathon I did.
25. Maximize what you’ve got! (Minimize what you need)
“I don’t have enough money”
A single phrase with so much power to inspire.
I heard it so many times, I had to create a blog series and a program called “No Money, No Problem” to help people overcome this idea.
In life, it’s tempting to seek more, more, more of things: possessions, time, money, power, prestige.
But without ever mastering what’s already available to us, this is a fruitless exercise.
My favorite example of this is lottery winners, who often end up broke within 5-10 years. These individuals never learned how to use money. They never figured out how to have a healthy, constructive relationship with it. Getting “more” just exemplified their lack of skill in this area.
And even though we think it would never happen to us, we’re deluding ourselves. The numbers don’t lie. We’re all human and are subject to the same psychological biases.
If we don’t learn how to use what we have, getting “more” just isn’t going to help.
26. Love & Gratitude – My Life is Amazing
There are at least 100 things you’re not experiencing right now. Research teams in Switzerland are running experiments and they believe there might be as many as 357 things you’re missing out on at any given moment.
We will always be missing out on something. I came to Russia instead of going to Turkey or Morocco. Because of that choice, I’m also going to be studying Russian for a year in Saint Petersburg instead of continuing to country hop.
In other words, my life sucks. Wah! There’s so much I’m missing out on.
You have got to be kidding me.
I’m so incredibly grateful for being able to wake up every morning, happy, healthy, and do many things that I love. I don’t care that there are other good things out there that I’m missing out on. What a waste of energy.
There’s so much right in front of us all the time that’s mind blowing, amazing, spectacular, if we only care to look.
It’s been an amazing 26 years thus far, and I’m so excited to be starting #27.
Whatever is going on in your life, whatever you’re struggling with, take heart! Your life might not change from reading a blog post, but you can start to take action on the ideas you have right now. There’s a ton to be grateful for. There’s a ton to explore. And there’s a ton of love to give.